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This seems to have lost it’s meaing as of late. People are tossing this word around and not quite understanding what it means. I’v seen people use it to defend themselves, calling other ‘bigots’ when they themselves are acting as such.
Here we go. Websters definition. This is not up for debate.
BIGOT: a person who is obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices; especially : one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance.
What does this mean when we get right down to it?
How can you not be a bigot? Step back, take a breath of air, realize that you yourself really aren’t justified for hating or talking others down.
It might be a different story if they are threatening you or your lifestyle. Causing you physical or emotional harm (I mean SERIOUS emotional harm, that they purposefully mean to cause. You can’t take offence at an idea and call it emotional harm.)
What are a few examples of bigotry, you ask us?
Here is something else for you to think on, as of late this has been dragged into a lot of gender and religion issues.
- Someone doesn’t accept that gender isn’t binary. Okay. Is this hurting you? Really? Do you need to hate or mistrust them for it? Unless they are arguing with you or trying talking you down, it’s really none of your buisness. You don’t have to be friends, you don’t have to talk.
But if they are just stating their own beliefs and not causing any trouble, leave it at that. Maybe you can have a nice, peaceful conversation about it later instead of jumping to the conclusion that they must be a shallow person.
- Same thing goes for religion. Just because someone is Christian doesn’t mean they “hate fags”. Unless they are knocking on your door trying to tell you how to live or expressly telling you that what your doing is wrong or whatever, you shouldn’t treat them any differently than you would yourself and you defiantly shouldn’t confront them about it.
If they aren’t coming to you and bothering you with it, why drag it up?
(On a side note, CISSEXISM, is a very dodgy topic we can try and cover later, while I do believe it exists, I also believe, like bigotry, people toss it around way too much.)
TL;DR version … we have all probably done a few bigot things in our lives and really, leave it be, learn from it, but don’t beat the dead horse.
If a person isn’t bothering you or expressly, publicly mocking you, belittling you or trying to cause trouble. You have no excuse to make fun of their own opinions or beliefs.
Don’t take away someones right to free speech.
Treat others the way you would like to be treated.
It’s not fair to stereotype.
Don’t insight violence.
(But in the end, some humans are just douche bags who really don’t like people telling them what to do or not agreeing with their opinions or making them feel uncomfortable and are willing to call them out, hurt them and make a fuss because of it.)